Why it’s so important to dare to be you

Who are you?

 I am a classically trained chef, a model, a mum, a mature First Class Honours Student. I have studied as an actress, a  mechanic, a secretary,  a hypnotherapist, dabbled in interior design and even owned a bakery business. I have been (and still am) so many things. I wanted to write this in response to an Instagram comment which I received yesterday. I won’t name and shame as there is no need for that, but I will give you the gist of what she said. Said person wrote, in a tone unbecoming of a lady that she that he did not like what I was doing on my social media, that I should stick to baking and cakes only and that she was going to unfollow me with immediate affect.

The Perils of Social Media 

Follows and unfollows happen all the time but it is people like this that can affect us and hold us back in life, if we let them. I am writing this post to encourage you to be unashamedly who you are and who you want to be. It’s challenging when you are under the watchful eye of the media to do different things the way I do, but I know that it can be equally if not more challenging to be yourself when you have a husband/wife, family and friends who are putting you in the spotlight and holding you back. Naturally, there are often challenges such as money and time when we want to do something, but there are also ways that we can find, to do some of the things that we really want to do in life.

So why today?

Today is a super blue blood new moon lunar eclipse. The Astro Twins say it is a great time to let go of the old and get very honest with what is no longer working in your life; be it a job, a partner or the way that you take care of yourself. But of course it would be great to do this on any day of the year.  When you have time later, rather than scroll through your social media as most of us do, take a few minutes to sit quietly and ask yourself what it is you no longer want in your life. Which people are supporting you and which people are holding you back? Which things are keeping you in a negative place and which situations that you frequent give you an uneasy feeling in your gut? Write everything down by hand on a piece of paper and then (carefully) burn that piece of paper, or bury it. Yes sure this might be mumbo jumbo, but even if you don’t do the destroying part of this, it can only be a good thing to have a clear idea of what is working in your life wouldn’t you agree?

Yes you can.

If no one has told you today, recently or indeed ever, I want to tell you that you can do whatever you put your mind too. And if you are going through some challenging stuff, the intense feelings will pass. I do understand that I won’t be playing for Manchester United or landing on the moon anytime soon, but I do know that there are dreams, hope and goals that I can achieve if I put my mind to it. And the same goes for you too.

Just Start.

Start writing that novel, begin working on that new project. Have a look at the course you have always wanted to do; perhaps you can find one online? Get up a couple of hours earlier, go to bed a couple of hours later and use that time to pursue your dreams. Say yes to opportunities which are going to propel you forward, to meet new people. Take a chance with that evening class you have been scared to do ask out that person out that you have been thinking about for so long. So often when we take a leap, the net will appear.

The timing will never be just right.

Don’t wait for everything to be right or for you to be in the right mindset, just start doing, and the right motivation will come. If we sit around waiting for motivation, it may never find us. The motivation comes from the momentum of doing. Don’t tell other people your dreams, even the most loving and supportive around us can sometimes say something which may hold us back from going for it. Be careful with whom you share your precious plans. According to research, you are more likely to do something new if you don’t tell other people about it. Gollwitzer, Sheeran, Michalski, and Siefert published a paper in  Psychological Science which explained that  we lose impetus and excitement in pursuing the new project if we tell people before hand and it can decrease our likelihood of seeing the task through.

Think it forward.

My philosophy is to think forward to my end of days and make sure that when I have my final thoughts and breath, I can look back at my life and feel that I have no regrets. I want to seize every opportunity which feels right for me and do all the things I have ever thought of doing, and I urge you to adopt the same way of thinking. Comment below and let me know what you have not done in your life that you wish you could do within the realms of your physical possibility, and what holds you back and what you can do to change what holds you back.  Be bold, dare to be you, ignore the naysayers and even if you feel like you can’t do it,  Go for it.

Pics via unsplash. Noel Silliman, Nathalia Y,  Arnel Hasanovic,

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7 Comments

  1. Anne Oppenheim
    31st January 2018 / 6:54 pm

    some like to pidgeon hole and label people in the public eye. They feel rather unsettled by change anyway and they wish to continue to keep one where they feel safe so as to speak. I have spent my life so far wearing many different hats, Including accountant, dabbling in NLP, running a horse transport company, full time mother, lived in 6 diverse countries. I am open minded and curious ( maybe nosy sometimes) about the world, new things, books to read etc. I really really enjoy following you Lorraine. You are very inspiring.

  2. Anne Oppenheim
    31st January 2018 / 6:55 pm

    PS you mention on one of your posts that you had been watching ‘This is us’ on Amazon. I have just finished the series which I absolutely loved. Thank you for the recommendation.

  3. Cal
    1st February 2018 / 12:29 am

    I am currently studying at cullinary school which has been a dream of mine for a long time but had things hold me back up until now. I hope one day i will make it big, I am passionate about food and cooking and I’m loving what I’m doing at school , I love what you do Loraine, your ideas class and skill are awesome. I admire you your strength and your dedication, I’m a big fan of yours and hope to be as good as you one day. Keep up the good work lovely lady x

  4. Thor Andreas Soerhus
    1st February 2018 / 4:34 am

    Just carry on as yo do.
    You are just great!
    – Do you mind; adding you as my friend on FB?

    Sincerely yours:
    – Mr. Thor

  5. Kevin Foster
    1st February 2018 / 9:08 am

    Hi Lorraine
    I’ve just read your post and your words are so true. Your a truly inspirational woman. I would like to recommend two books.

    The Secret. By Rhonda Byrne
    The Key to Living the Law Of Attraction. By Jack Cranfield

    Yours Sincerely
    Kev Foster

  6. Charles Burbridge
    2nd February 2018 / 12:31 am

    Thanks for the inspiration. I have wrote that novel the problem has always been getting it published. But I will try anew and as you have said I have found if I put my mind to it I can accomplish anything. Thank you Beautiful Lady.

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