I woke up this morning in a terrible mood. Maybe it was a bad dream, or possibly me taking on too much of other people’s stuff. Either way, I was in a tiswas when I woke up. I had spent much of the day before working from 6 am until 10 pm and did not feel it had been that productive so that may have added to my mental malaise also. I sat up in bed fighting with the pillows attempting to get comfortable for my 20-minute meditation. Then with my eyes closed I tried my hardest to relax. The feeling inside me was persistent. I just felt crappy. I finally managed to settle into a relaxed state, as I repeated my meditation mantra over in my head. Just as my shoulders beginning to soften, I burst into tears.
A friend is going through an awful trauma at the moment, and I was feeling so much for them. I went back to the meditation again trying to fight away bad feelings. And then words came into my head which said ‘just sit with it’. These words are ones which I have said to friends so often. Today was the day I needed to practice what I preach.
It is ok to have the occasional bad day and not feel great. It is okay to be in a grump from time to time and just have feelings which don’t altogether feel nice in the gut. The worse thing, for me is to try and fight those feelings. It’s almost as if the more you fight them, the more they stay and the stronger they get. Much like pulling a rope with someone pulling at the other end. The more you pull, the more they pull, and the tug of war goes nowhere. Until you decide to just let go of the rope and stop pulling. When you do this, a miraculous thing happens. Usually, the feelings get a little better and the tension releases. I always say if you are struggling and nothing is working then please do seek help, but if you like me have woken up on the wrong side of the bed, then this simple tactic seems to work. I have listed 10 things below which may appear trite at first glance but trying to do a few of these a day magically does help. I Hope they bring you as much relief as they do me. If you are a spiritual person, these are a great way to raise your energy vibration to bring better things to you during the day too.
1. Avoid Gossiping
I know how tempting it is. It’s Strangely soothing in a way. Gossiping takes us away from our troubles or mundane lives and into the chaos of another, but it’s not a kind thing to do.
2. Think positive thoughts
People often think that this method is a load of jibberish but some of the most successful sports people use it, so that says something about its efficacy.
3. Be grateful
A gratitude list does wonders for the soul and helps to bring the focus back to what is working in life.
Move your body. Walk, jog on the spot. Get the blood flowing and the endorphins pumping.
5. Random Acts of Kindness
Leave a kind note for someone, Give a busker some money. Make up with a long-lost friend.
6. Pay someone a compliment
When was the last time you paid you loved one or a friend a compliment? Go beyond saying that they have a lovely frock on or their hair looks nice. Mention something about who they are or what they have done.
7. Do some breathwork.
I downloaded an app called Pranayama. There are some calming exercises on it taking from 5 minutes and up.
8. Eat healthy foods
I know boring. But putting junk in your body does not make it feel or function as well as if you when you are eating nutritious, healthy foods. And naturally, the body affects the mind.
9. Walk in Nature
Being near a lake or grass has healing properties about it. I am not advocating you hug trees which my dear mum used to swear by, but getting away from the urban zoo for a few moments in your lunch break can be beneficial.
10. Listen to music/meditate
Stick your headphones on and find some spiritual/meditative music on youtube to listen to for five minutes or so before you go steaming out of the door or at your desk in between tasks
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