These easy steps will help you to destress quickly

I woke up this morning in a terrible mood. Maybe it was a bad dream, or possibly me taking on too much of other people’s stuff. Either way, I was in a tiswas when I woke up. I had spent much of the day before working from 6 am until 10 pm and did not feel it had been that productive so that may have added to my mental malaise also. I sat up in bed fighting with the pillows attempting to get comfortable for my 20-minute meditation. Then with my eyes closed I tried my hardest to relax. The feeling inside me was persistent. I just felt crappy. I finally managed to settle into a relaxed state, as I repeated my meditation mantra over in my head. Just as my shoulders beginning to soften, I burst into tears.

A friend is going through an awful trauma at the moment, and I was feeling so much for them. I went back to the meditation again trying to fight away bad feelings. And then words came into my head which said ‘just sit with it’. These words  are ones which I have said to friends so often. Today was the day I needed to practice what I preach.

It is ok to have the occasional bad day and not feel great. It is okay to be in a grump from time to time and just have feelings which don’t altogether feel nice in the gut. The worse thing, for me is to try and fight those feelings. It’s almost as if the more you fight them, the more they stay and the stronger they get. Much like pulling a rope with someone pulling at the other end. The more you pull, the more they pull, and the tug of war goes nowhere. Until you decide to just let go of the rope and stop pulling. When you do this, a miraculous thing happens. Usually, the feelings get a little better and the tension releases. I always say if you are struggling and nothing is working then please do seek help, but if you like me have woken up on the wrong side of the bed, then this simple tactic seems to work. I have listed 10 things below which may appear trite at first glance but trying to do a few of these a day magically does help. I Hope they bring you as much relief as they do me. If you are a spiritual person, these are a great way to raise your energy vibration to bring better things to you during the day too.

1. Avoid Gossiping
I know how tempting it is. It’s Strangely soothing in a way. Gossiping takes us away from our troubles or mundane lives and into the chaos of another, but it’s not a kind thing to do.

2. Think positive thoughts
People often think that this method is a load of jibberish but some of the most successful sports people use it, so that says something about its efficacy.

3. Be grateful
A gratitude list does wonders for the soul and helps to bring the focus back to what is working in life.

4. Exercise
Move your body. Walk, jog on the spot. Get the blood flowing and the endorphins pumping.

5. Random Acts of Kindness
Leave a kind note for someone, Give a busker some money. Make up with a long-lost friend.

6. Pay someone a compliment
When was the last time you paid you loved one or a friend a compliment? Go beyond saying that they have a lovely frock on or their hair looks nice. Mention something about who they are or what they have done.

7. Do some breathwork.
I downloaded an app called Pranayama. There are some calming exercises on it taking from 5 minutes and up.

8. Eat healthy foods
I know boring. But putting junk in your body does not make it feel or function as well as if you when you are eating nutritious, healthy foods. And naturally, the body affects the mind.

9. Walk in Nature
Being near a lake or grass has healing properties about it. I am not advocating you hug trees which my dear mum used to swear by, but getting away from the urban zoo for a few moments in your lunch break can be beneficial.

10. Listen to music/meditate
Stick your headphones on and find some spiritual/meditative music on youtube to listen to for five minutes or so before you go steaming out of the door or at your desk in between tasks

Photo credits: Tim Goedhart, Mike laburnum, Hannah Naibaho on unsplash

Ps: Spot a typo? Let me know and I’ll change it.



  1. 30th January 2018 / 5:48 pm

    Really great advice Lorraine. Once again, it’s so good to see people like you sharing this and making it more mainstream. Less than 8yrs ago this kind of thing was for the fruit loops, but it just works. It’ll make you feel better and that’s all that matters.

    Thanks so much for sharing, the world can never have too many positive voices connecting us together.

    Jonathan xx

  2. Emily Bunting
    30th January 2018 / 7:40 pm

    Thankyou 💛
    Great advice, and I will be consciously working these tips into my life.
    Having felt constant stress for the last couple of (actually 8) years, due to my environment and circle.. and just accepting that as my lifestyle.. I’m now realising just how unhealthy it is to live that way, and how vital it is to manage stress levels. I’ve been a fan of yours for years, initially with baking, but lately I’ve found Your lifestyle stuff, your Instagram and blog are truly inspiring 🙂 !! keep up the good work xxxx

  3. Angela
    30th January 2018 / 7:49 pm

    This is a great post. I try to practice a lot of this regularly but sometimes you just need a reminder that it’s helpful, especially when you’re struggling.

  4. Robina
    30th January 2018 / 9:45 pm

    Great blog and very true and inspiring 🙂 just what was needed in this never ending January !! A great reminder that the simple things in life are the best and we need to simply let go and relax xx thank u for the reminder

    • 30th January 2018 / 9:46 pm

      Hello Robina, thanks so much for your reply. Glad you enjoyed the blog. Have a lovely evening xxxxx

  5. Ivy
    30th January 2018 / 10:34 pm

    I really needed this! Both of my boys and I had a bad day yesterday. Great advice.

  6. Charles Burbridge
    1st February 2018 / 1:02 am

    Great list I do a lot of them and will add some to my list. Also if you look like that when you wake up Outstanding, I just payed you a compliment and it felt great. Have a great day.

  7. Denise mbuluku Manenga
    25th March 2018 / 12:26 pm

    Hi, sweeter I would like to see you I loved cooking.

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