12 things you should give up to find your purpose

If you want know how to find your purpose in life, these are the 12 things you need to give up doing. People that have figured out how to find purpose in life are happier, live longer and enjoy more success. Have a look at the things you need to stop doing so you can start to find your purpose.

  1. Give up thinking big

Start small and find purpose in the little everyday things. The Japanese have something they call Ikigai which is  ‘a reason for being/getting up in the morning’.  Start looking for your Ikigai in things which you already do throughout the day. People who have found their purpose often find it by thinking small initially. Find things which give you that spark inside and then start looking for ways to expand on them.


  1. Give up being impatient

Finding your purpose can take time. Practising delayed gratification and allowing life to unfold naturally has beauty and freedom in it. Having patience will mean that you will pick up on signs, synchronicities and messages from other people more readily. It takes many years to be an overnight success.


  1. Give up Going solo

Having a community of good quality people around you is the essence of life. Ensure you have a support system of those who can help and guide you and give you feedback on this process. Engage in more face to face time and collaborations with people who share your interests can being a wealth of ideas and inspiration.


  1. Give up Not appreciating your strengths and talents

Start celebrating who you are and what you have to offer to the world. You were born with many talents and gifts. You have also endured many challenges: The answer to your purpose may well lie within one of these.


  1. Give up not being true to yourself

You may have a voice inside of you which has been talking to you for years or felt some pull to do something. Listen to that pull and act upon it. Always be your authentic self.


  1. Give up the fear

Sometimes it is scary taking a leap of faith when you don’t know what is going to be in front of you. Fear holds so many people back from doing what they want to do. So be courageous and bold and pay no attention to what negative people think.


  1. Give up in-action and over thinking

Planning, dissecting and overthinking about what to do leads nowhere. You will never think your way to your purpose. It will come from taking action from doing, trying and seeing what feels right.


  1. Give up not serving others

You don’t have to be the Dalai Lama, but people often find their purpose in service and helping others or making things better for others. This can come in many different ways, from making beautiful music to designing a killer new app to becoming an actor, or it can just be looking after a niece or nephew after school.


  1. Give up thinking your passion will lead you to your purpose

There is a misconception that finding your passion will always lead to your purpose, but often these can be two very different things. Passion may be something you love to do, but there is no guarantee that it will imbue your life with meaning.


  1. Give up looking for it purely in a job

You could find it through your hobbies, interests or even through a social media account that you follow.  It could be that you discover meaning in something which cannot be applied successfully in a job setting and that you end up doing separately in your free time.


  1. Give up not thinking about death

Think about what you would like written on your tombstone. What impact would you like to have on the world, and how would you like to be remembered.


  1. Give up beating yourself up

If you don’t find it straight away or do find it and then realise that it does not feel quite right, be kind to yourself. Enjoy the process of exploring your inner ‘you’ and finding the things which make you tick. See the journey as a gift and a privilege. Know that you are getting ever closer to finding it. Think about how good it will feel when your efforts bear glorious fruit. Having a purpose will serve to make you and others happier!


Lorraine Pascale



  1. Lorenzo
    20th February 2018 / 6:23 pm

    Inspiring and motivating, in this moment of my life it’s great for me because I do not know what to do with them and how to get out of the hole I’m in and they’re already 8 years old.

    I hope it is well written because it is translated.

    Thanks Lorraine

    • 21st February 2018 / 12:43 pm

      Thank you so much for writing and I’m thrilled that it helps. They say to take things one day at a time ans to just start something to find your purpose. Thanks again. Lorraine

  2. 22nd February 2018 / 2:57 pm

    Thanks for this Lorraine. Fear is my biggest enemy! I combat it as much as I give in. Reading your post is a great reminder that regardless of how much I may be afraid of failing at something, past failures have made me greater and fear of failure is the ultimate self sabotage, and not the failure itself! x

  3. Charles Burbridge
    5th March 2018 / 10:59 pm

    Thanks Lorraine I need to work on some of these. Food for thought but not too much.

  4. Malcolm
    6th March 2018 / 6:14 am

    I agree with you that there”s enough written about interoperability already. At heart, the reason we don”t have it is because those in charge don”t want it. There”s too much economic incentive for walled gardens. As you mention, the problem is with who”s in charge. Right now, with data becoming a core resource, you”ve got companies free-riding on the data generated by people simply trying to be healthy and live their lives. Granted, companies have created tools to capture and analyze that data but does that mean they now get to own and manipulate that data for their own purposes, free and clear and behind closed doors? We”ve put the cart before the horse on health data in talking about standards before purpose. If people and their data are now the product, we need to be discussing who pulls our strings and why. At the very least, we need to talk about to what extent.

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